you can preach about slut-shaming all you want, but you can’t deny there’s something very wrong with 13 and 14-year old girls going out in skirts and dresses so short they barely cover their asses and shirts with necklines so low they show off cleave they haven’t got yet, drinking and even smoking and hooking up with guys before they even have a substantial knowledge of how sex and sexual relationships work.
Thank YOU HOLY SHIT
yeah this is why we have an age of consent thing
sexualizing young girls is disturbing and it’s even more horrifying when they do it to themselves
Okay, no but listen. You cannot slut shame a child because a child cannot be a slut. Let’s have fun with our diction, shall we?
I am a in my 20s and sexually active. Very sexually active. I am, in fact, a slut. I mean, I am. Because I, a consenting adult, have made the conscious choice to be sexually active with many different people at many different times. And, if I decide to wear short skirts and shorts and crop tops and write my phone number on a guys hand at the bar, that is a choice I made as an adult. That is why an age of consent exists. Because, as an adult, I am capable of consenting.
Now, a 13 yr old girl might also wear short skirts and shorts and crop tops and write her phone number on boys’ hands in the cafeteria or wherever the fuck kids are hanging out these days. She might even be having sex. She really might. Here’s why she is not a slut and I am: she is a child. She is not old enough to consent to anything. She is a little girl who has been raised in a society that teaches her that that behavior is expected from her. She walks to school everyday and passes by 5 billboards with women splayed across a man because of his body spray or toothpaste or car or wart remover cream. So, when she turns 13 and wants to be “womanly”, her idea of how women behave has been embedded as what you would describe as “a slut”. So, maybe, just maybe, instead of worrying about the clothing of a child, we should examine what about our society has made that child want those clothes.
Also, let’s take a quick detour to discuss how any adult looking at a 13 yr old girl in a miniskirt and thinking “slut” instead of “child” is a huge, huge part of the problem. And, to be perfectly honest, I’m going to say that, in that context, the adult is the one with the bigger problem.
In my experience, both personally and as a youth mentor, preteen girls who dress provocatively and/or start having sex young are more likely to have experienced childhood sexual abuse, abuse of other forms (neglect, emotional, physical, etc), have mental disorders, or suffer from low self esteem as a result of the measurably sharp drop in self-esteem in girls right around puberty. Slut-shaming children for their choices is a ridiculously ignorant and dangerous thing to do. These girls deserve compassion, education and unconditional respect, not shame and ridicule for fucks sake.