Can I just say I absolutely adore you and your page. As a big girl it gets really hard for me to accept myself and my body. But you have so much confidence and it is so inspirational. Being a high school senior, inspiration is sometimes hard to find.
It makes me so happy to hear/read this. I had the absolute worst time in high school so I know the drill. Know that if you ever have any difficulties you’ll always have a distant but caring friend in me. :)
hi!! im a really huge fan of your blog, even though i just found it. sometimes i feel as a bigger girl that i cant be fashionable, but you are just further proof that thats completely untrue. keep sparkling!
You are so adorable!!!! I just wanted to ask you, what do you do when you're feeling down on yourself? It's been a long and slow process for me to appreciate myself and I have so many down days I'm just looking for anything to help me out. Thank you
Your question comes in such a weird time for me coz I am not feeling all that dandy my self. I read it this morning and I got me so preoccupied with it that I wrote an answer to it in my personal diary whilst in class. ahem.. quite literally.
Again this became more about me than anything else since I don’t even know who you are. I am posting this for you to have my inside on this with the very big Asterisk, this is just my personal opinion. k?
I wish I could tell you a simple recipe for self esteem Unfortunately you can’t blend 2 pretty dresses, a nice ass selfie and, a couple of followers and BUM! selflove! I have HOWEVER found a few things that helped, these I give to you.
1.- Understand that it takes time. Not just read this and accept that it takes time, actually sit and make the mental exercise of imagining life complexly. Reject the hollywood idea that one thing, one change, one temporary different mindset will change everything and will make you magically happy.
2-. Dont take your self excessively seriously. What really made you feel “ugly” that day?? What was it really?? A thin woman on tv being praised because of her figure? A mean comment? a knee ache? Learn to know what is true and what isn’t. What can you get away from and what you have to learn to deal with and when you are over, give your self the chance to understand that it truly isn’t a matter of life or death and try to focus on the things you are missing out by making you appearance the most relevant thing.
3-. Don’t buy into the sappy slogan bullshit.
Yes, it is possible to love other and be loved even if you don’t fully love yourself yet!! There is this very strong need from people to stress how important it is to choose your self first. Some of us are willing to leave all of our projects hobbies, personal & private time to make other ppl happy (guilty!) it’s a very common problem so people needs to be reminded to choose one self sometimes, however that doesn’t mean you can’t love until you have a fully developed self esteem. As a matter of fact you can observe how you are towards the ppl you love and try an extend that generosity to your self. Like this quote there is a thousand, learn to think critically about them so you wont feel that bad when you don’t achieve this perfect state of self love we are told some people have.
4.- Don’t expect ppl to console you or confirm your fears. It is amazingly brave to ask for help and it’s a whole step on it’s own but if you are always waiting for others to be the voice of reason you can’t be for your self you will be endlessly disappointed. No matter how many times ppl tells you how beautiful you are, how many followers you have or how much sex you have, if you don’t believe it on your own, you won’t believe it out of someone else’s mouth. To top it of people doesn’t have a way of knowing what you need to hear, they’ll tell you what ‘they’ need to hear, what they Can say based on their lifes, their experiences and their own understandably of the issue. Sometimes feeling misunderstood can even worsen the issue so don’t expect people to give you what you need, just take what they can give and move on. 4.a.- This works the other way around as well. People only insults based on their own perceptions and problematic’s. And whilst the absence of abuse sure is a basic right, if you don’t like your self that will continue to happen with or without the mean looks or what ever variety of bulling. (I for example moved recently to Germany, I have yet to experience any sort of discrimination here. People are mostly apathetic, everyone minds their own business and doesn’t mess with how other people do their own. Sadly enough that hasn’t had an impact in my perception of my self, it has even made me more paranoid of what they might be thinking and aren’t showing.)
5-. Do things you love. Actually do stuff. It takes your mind out of your insecurities and it makes you more prone to finding your own answers. :)
I love that outfit with the floral skirt, black belt, white button down w/ black bow, grey sweater, black flats, and flower headband was adorable/super freaking cute, but would look much better with different color tights. The tights didn't go at all. wrong color.
They are actually the same color as the hair band but you are right the color looks totally off in the pics. D: THE SHAME!